They have become uncontrollable, and sometimes they don't even belong to us, but where do they come from? How are they produced? Why do some people think they can't control them?
So many questions with increasingly evasive answers! But what are these "things" that we cannot see and that we can feel in the depths of our being?
Did you know that your emotions are emitted by your body? That they're internal? United by powerful physiological reactions, fueled by... !
We can go into scientific detail, for example, that certain reflexes originate in the spinal cord (and with the help of the brain for more complex movements). That this releases acetylcholine (involved in memory and learning) and causes an electrical change. That the motor cortex is ahead of the sensory! That the limbic system is involved in emotions, etc. But will this help you?
For you these are only words without any real intrinsic representation, it increases your intellect, your knowledge of words and then?
It's difficult to locate them in the brain, as some emotions use only a tiny part of the brain (although several parts are involved). The same emotion won't necessarily trigger the same part of the brain every time. However, emotions are not perceptions, although their signals come from sensory inputs. What we need to know is that emotions tell us something important that's going on WITHIN us! They are not actions, however, but they can provoke them.
When we feel an emotion, it's only the result of internal, physiological action. They can also be mental experiences or body states, and although emotions are often seen as guides, they must not be decision-makers! (Which, unfortunately, is often the case: there's a difference between saying "let your emotions guide you" and "let your emotions guide you".
It all starts inside you! Hunger, pain, injury (physical) will trigger all kinds of emotions!
They are part of our lives on both a physical and mental level as well as a branch of the 5 human pillars!
In fact, our emotions are just a cellular and physiological disturbance, to put it mildly. When you feel an emotion, you need to know the cause and deal with it in the right way.
The question of suppressing one or more emotions often comes up. What's the point of this emotion if all I feel is pain and sorrow? Why is this happening to me? It's impossible anyway, I can't control it!
One day, a student asked me a question: "How can I separate myself from all my bad emotions?"
First of all, there's no such thing as good or bad emotions. What makes them "good" or "bad" are your life perceptions, your history, your interpretations and your lack of understanding. Like good and evil, it's a mental dissociation separated by an iron fist that prevents you from having balance in your life and your emotional state.
As mentioned above, the same emotion (fear, for example) doesn't always use the same part of the brain to express itself, so its feelings will be on different levels depending on the situation. In other words, it's not all black and white: this emotion isn't just negative or positive, it appears according to your bodily state and its intrinsic reactions at a given moment, based on an energetic perception of the situation.
-Joy -Surprise -Tristesse -Fear -Grief -Disgust -Disdain
"Is it possible to totally separate oneself from an emotion? To ablate it? I'd like to get rid of it for good, never to feel this way again!"
I replied with a small smile: "Of course it's possible, it's a long, perilous and very dangerous road, but you can ablate one of them without going through surgery which, as we know, is capable of certain emotional ablations (although this isn't 100% very far from it, as our knowledge of the brain is very limited) and it's dangerous. Yes, it's possible, however doing an emotional ablation is equivalent to separating you from one of your vital organs!"
Surprised, he questioned me with his eyes!
"Every human emotion is linked to one of your organs, such as anger, which is directly linked to the liver (an alcoholic can be violently angry or this will inhibit his anger.), your joy is linked to your heart, fear by your kidneys, sadness is linked to your lungs, etc. So the question is rather which organ are you ready to separate? So the question is, which organ are you ready to part with? Are you ready to continue your life with all that this implies without this organ? Or do you want to restore it to its former glory and live in harmony with it by understanding and nourishing it in the right way?"
Separating oneself from an emotion is like separating oneself from a piece of one's life. I'm not talking about memories that have nothing to do with it, I'm talking about feelings, memory, power and will!
Suppression, control, abandonment - it's all just an awareness of our own incompetence and lack of self-knowledge. Worse still, we don't want to know any more!
So what do we do with all this? How do I control my emotions?
I'll share a secret with you:
If you don't take control, you can't lose it. Seeking to control is tantamount to heading straight for defeat!
So just like when you learned to drive, write, calculate or whatever. You started by learning what it was (a car, the pedals, the letters, the numbers...), then you started to understand and ask certain questions to get a better grasp of it, then you drove, you wrote, you calculated, you made mistakes, you got it wrong, you rectified, re-evaluated, re-started until you got, your license, a diploma, ease of calculation. At that point, you began to have a natural control over what you were doing, because you had a very good understanding of it and you knew what to do according to the situation, you were no longer surprised or submissive.
Well, your emotions, those things that you feel without ever seeing them are identical and are constantly changing!
These internal changes can also refer to your 5 senses, all related to your physiology and energy!
How do you plan to go about it? Do you really want this knowledge? Your vision of things, of yourself, of what surrounds you could be radically shaken up! Are you ready to really live, to break down barriers?
Our fear of the unknown, which has been with us since childhood, makes us believe that there's nothing worse than discovering things about who we are!
In the end, it's an emotion that's as useful as you want it to be, depending on your physical state of mind!